But what I noticed was that whenever another guy tried to imitate that same success - using the exact same techniques that the other guy was using and had success with - the guy imitating him had a tough time.
to a guy who doesn't understand what women are really saying when they say "Just be yourself." You have to be "you," but you also have to be the best version of you that you can show.
Here's something you might not know: If you try to be someone you're not by borrowing someone else's stories or showing off a lifestyle you haven't experienced, to every person you meet.
I'll come back to this in a second...) Even I had the same problems.
I'd use an opener I learned from someone, and when I walked over and used it to start a conversation, I would sound like some phony B-movie actor delivering a bad line. One girl even stopped in the middle of taking a sip from her drink, squinted at me, and said, "Did you just try that with all the other girls in here?
And then later on down the road I could be more "real" with her.
I even tried being more like a "player" to jack up women's attraction for me.As if you're entire value as a man is based on a skill you've never been taught.Just like the example I just gave you of the guitar style I was trying to find, there are TONS of "systems" and outer game techniques out there that work the same way.So you see, the secret is not trying to camouflage your attempts to get a woman interested in you, or try to sneak in with some hypnotic technique, or hide behind a "pickup" routine.Quite simply because YOU CAN'T HIDE YOURSELF from a woman.I'd talk to women about my hobbies and what I thought was interesting, but I never seemed to get anywhere.