Over nine years, the researchers tracked the relationship status of these people, who had to pop the rather unusual question to partners of whether they would mind filling out the same personality questionnaire for the good of science.After nine years and thousands of questionnaires, the researchers ended up with 332 participants who had been in relationships with at least two different romantic partners who were both happy to participate in the study.Instead, do something to get your mind off of what you are upset about.
Does this person treat you and others with dignity and respect? Can this person listen to your struggles in the relationship?
How do they bring up issues that are troubling to them? Do they accept responsibility for their part in things not going well?
Recent work has suggested that we do have go-to preferences when it comes to demographic and physical characteristics such as education, age difference, hair color, and height.
However, no previous research has provided strong evidence that we consistently seek a particular personality type across partners.
Commitment means that they choose you and see you as the person they want to go through life with.
The important components in good relationships are interest and curiosity about your partner, the ability to be introspective and hold yourself accountable for your contribution to problems, trustworthiness, and the ability to commit.
Does this person make you feel important by following through with promises and commitments?
What we have learned from the research on relationships is that there are four behaviors that will kill relationships: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.
Editor’s Note: Strong relationships are at the core of a happy life, but sometimes, dealing with the people in our lives is tricky.