But I am not sure if I should be making plans with a man I don’t feel much attraction for.
I decided to tell him the truth about my feelings and he said he will take all the steps necessary to improve himself physically as he doesn’t want to lose me. Is he really the man of my life if physically I don’t like him the way he is?
Physically, I find he is not a “match” for me and I am not proud of being so shallow.
I don’t know what to do because other than that he is just perfect and I like him very much, he makes me feel very good.
That doesn’t mean it’s impossible, but if you ask most married couples, the nature of sex changes. We’re attracted to what we’re attracted to – often to our own detriment. Ah, if it were only that simple…Reasons to Break Up Because of a Lack of Physical Attraction As you know, sexual attraction rarely grows over time. With women, it tends to be correlated to her feelings about her partner.
Sure, you might be that rare “three times a night” couple well into your fifties, but most of those clichés about parents not having time or energy for sex are true. Which is how men end up with hot crazy women and women end up with hot emotionally unavailable men. However, this is presuming a steady baseline of attraction from which to grow.
Mia, I can’t answer your question, because NOBODY can answer your question. Which would seem to indicate that you should break up with your boyfriend. I’ve put a lot of thought into the pros and cons of how much you should weigh the lack of physical attraction in a relationship.
Attraction is the big X Factor in any relationship. I urge you to consider this before taking any rash steps. But realize that in 10 years, you’re 37, raising little ones and your life is no longer your own. By 57, you’re probably finishing menopause and his libido is largely gone.Although he wasn't my usual type, I figured I'd give it a chance since we were really connecting.Two days after we started texting S started telling me how much he really liked me and I thought it was cute.S instantly got awkward and I could tell he was trying to make a move. " when I looked at him and began rubbing my arm telling me how soft my skin was..it kind of made me feel like I was in ("It puts the lotion on its skin", anyone? Anyway he finally looked at me and asked me if he could kiss me and I said yes...which I still regret! This was followed by: "I can hear your heart beat in your neck…it's totally hot". The very first thing you notice about someone is how they look. It's safe to say I was thrilled when the movie ended. Sometimes you're not attracted to someone FOR A REASON: because it's really not meant to be between you two. But he started questioning why I joined a dating website in Florida if I was planning to move to New York in a few months. " And then he told me that if we really hit it off he'd move to NYC for me.