No relationship can be optimally navigated without an adequate understanding of each partner’s “weak spots.” The inferior can be problematic because it is both alluring and underdeveloped.It is like a child who desperately wants to get behind the wheel of a car because driving looks like so much fun.Another misconception about INFJs is that they are emotionally “needy.” This likely stems from the fact that INFJs extravert and readily express their emotions via Fe.
But unlike ESFP, INFJs can have difficulty fitting into the modern working world and making a lot of money.
Moreover, INFJs are slower to pair with S-types, for whom earning money often comes rather naturally. They may desire, perhaps even envy, the ESP lifestyle, but they aren’t willing to sell their Ni soul to obtain it.
Yet another misunderstanding is the claim that INFJs “read into things that are not there” or “make mountains out of molehills.” Such accusations can be troubling for INFJs, since reading into things by way of their Ni is what they are born to do.
In many cases, such accusations derive not from any wrongdoing on the part of the INFJ, but from the assumptions or ego sensitivities of their partners. ” or “You don’t seem yourself today” INFJs are trying to gather more information in order to better understand their partner.
The title of David Keirsey’s book, Please Understand Me, aptly expresses what INFJs are seeking in their relationships. Considering their status as the rarest of all personality types, this comes as little surprise.
There are numerous misunderstandings about INFJs that could potentially hamper their dating and relational success.
“Canned romance,” such as receiving the same bouquet of flowers every year come Valentine’s day, is apt to mean little to INFJs, who are quick to differentiate the “real and authentic” from the “fake and contrived.” For the INFJ, romance is cultivated on a daily basis through open communication and authentic action.
What is done on special occasions is merely icing on the cake.
Their ideal partner would take seriously the issue of personal growth and development—moral, spiritual, emotional, and psychological.