Next, avoid wearing anything that breaks up your frame visually.
What’s interesting about my client, Alexis, is that she had it wrong when it comes to her attitude about short men.
All this time, she’d told herself that she didn’t like short men because she simply wasn’t sexually attracted to them; in fact, the real reason she wasn’t attracted to short men was because she had a fixed image in her mind of what a man should look and act like as a result of her upbringing, and she needed the men she seeks out romantically to fit the same exact image of the men in her family. I spend more hours than you’d believe trying to help men and women change the type of person to whom they’re sexually attracted. The first step is to dig deep and ask yourself what in your history makes you attracted to a certain type, as well as what in your history repels you from a certain type.
But women bond face to face because they don’t have to worry about seeming like a threat.
Here’s where your less imposing stature comes in handy: Wood says shorter guys can get away with addressing women head-on and not intimidate them like taller men would. It’s a subtle change, but it’ll make her more comfortable opening up because that’s how she’s used to bonding, Wood says.
If your pants will stay put, lose the belt—or wear a slim one that’s the same color as your pants. Holding her gaze for longer than 3 seconds—without towering over her—reads as pure attraction, Wood says.
Go for monochromatic color schemes like dark jeans and a dark shirt instead of dark jeans and a white shirt. Tie on that friendship bracelet your niece made you. “She’ll think, ‘Wow, this guy is really into me,’” she says. Think about it: You wouldn’t want her to blatantly lie about her weight, would you?
When my clients start dating someone new, I couldn’t care less about what the individual looks like. Does he have a job that allows him to care of himself financially?
I want to know the following information: Is he reliable? If not, is he working his fingers to the bone looking for one? By the way, who’s going to care how tall anyone is as you celebrate your 25th anniversary together?
In my work with women, I’ve found that there are two basic reasons why most women won’t date a short man: Some women will feel nervous about being too big, telling themselves they’ll look smaller if they’re with a bigger guy; others simply want the knight in shining armor, and they need a man to live up to a fantasy image of masculinity and size, telling themselves that a bigger man is also automatically emotionally stronger, too.